My husband and I are the same in many areas; we have many of the same beliefs, hobbies, etc. But there is one area where we are vastly different. He is a pessimist and I am an optimist.
I actually think this is a good thing. He helps keep me grounded and I help him to find the joy in life. It’s a good balance.
This year has been a difficult year. We’ve had a lot of very good things happen to us, but it’s also been very stressful. And we both know it’s only going to get harder before it gets better; as our second son will be coming at the start of December.
This weekend, we took a drive to look at the fall leaves. My husband was thinking about his new job, which he’s had since september. It pays great, but he works a ten-hour day, with a one hour commute in the morning and again in the evening. On top of that, he sometimes has to work overtime. To add in another difficulty, we live in an area where we usually get over 200 inches of snow in a season.They’re predicting snow already for Friday and saturday. I know he’s worried about managing the job and drive while also having a newborn at home.
He turned to me while we were driving down a quiet country road and said, “Life is just plugging away day after day, isn’t it?”
I thought for a minute and said, “Sometimes. But I saw you laughing at our son this morning when he was running around the house pretending to be a Tyrannosaurus Rex. You weren’t plugging away then, were you?”
I was just trying to make him feel better, but I thought more about it when I got home. Yes, life is about plugging away. But it’s also about looking at beautiful fall leaves, laughing at the funny things your kids do, enjoying a good tv show, book, or movie, going for a long walk outside, and getting excited about the first snowfall. Making sure you notice and enjoy the small things in life is what makes your life a joyful one. Sometimes, you might have to force yourself to do it, but it will always make you happier.
As a perpetual optimist, that’s my key to a happy life. Enjoy!