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End of pregnancy exhaustion…

Well, folks, we’re nearing the end of the road now. 4 weeks and 6 days until the scheduled C-section and I’m so tired my hair hurts. Honestly.  ‘Course, it doesn’t help that my toddler is battling some sort of infection. We’ve been to the doctor multiple times and are now on our third medication. I’ve been having serious fears that I’m going to be able to handle baby number two. I keep reassuring myself that people have had more than one child for centuries. Oddly, that doesn’t seem to make me feel much better…

In other news, I’m still waiting to hear back about my book that’s on sub. Hurricane Sandy fried a bunch of the publisher’s servers, so we had to resend my manuscript last week. Of course that means the waiting period had to be restarted as well. Maybe it’s for the best.  I’m certainly in no shape to do revisions right at the moment.

Calling all aspiring romance writers!

I have some exciting news to share today! My friend and romance author, Aimee Duffy, is hosting a great contest on her blog! Not only can you win a copy of her newest book, but if you’re an aspiring writer, you can also win a FREE CRITIQUE of your first chapter and one page synopsis! This is not an importunity to pass up people! Check out her blog: http://www.aimeeduffy.co.uk/2012/11/free-book-critique-up-for-grabs.html

Problems

Just wanted to let everyone know that I’ve been having some problems with my pregnancy. Because of this, the limit the amount of time I can spend at the computer has been restricted. I’m hoping to get my interview with literary agent Michele Rubin typed up over the weekend and posted next week, though.  Have a nice weekend everyone.

Please take the time to help a fellow writer!

Hey, everybody. Today I’m asking you a favor. My friend, Aimee Duffy, has entered Harlequin’s So You Think You Can Write Contest. It’s been a life-long dream of hers to write for Harlequin. I know that both she, and I, would be very grateful if you took a moment to pop over to  her entry and read/vote for it. Here is is:

http://www.soyouthinkyoucanwrite.com/manuscripts/flirting-with-trouble/

She also is releasing her first romance novel through Beechwalk Press next week. I’m sure she could use some support. Here’s the link to her blog: http://www.aimeeduffy.co.uk/

Tomorrow, we’ll be having a guest post from published author, Brinda Berry, with step by step instructions for making a book trailer! So stay tuned!

The next step on the road to publication.

First of all, we didn’t get four inches of snow, but we did get some! Check it out!

Now, on to today’s post!

I know many of my regular readers have been walking with me along the road to publication. Now it’s time to move on to the next step: submission! (Yikes!)

So far, I wrote my manuscript, rewrote it multiple times, and then I queried agents. In August, I signed with Michele Rubin, of Writers House. Then I worked with her to do another, massive revision. Yesterday  I talked to her on the phone, and she loved it! She said she thinks the book is ready to go out!

So what happens next? I will, of course keep you all updated! Here is our plan for now:

1. We will start sending the book out the week after next, not this coming week, because of the Frankfurt Book Fair. If you want to check the fair out, you can find more info here. A lot of editors and publishers are there, so were going to wait for them to get back in the office.

2. While we wait, I have to write an author bio, assemble a few comparable titles, and write a page and a half, pithy description of my book, for Michele’s eyes only.

3. Then, the week after next, we will start sending it out. Michele plans to start with six big publishers. She expects that it will take anywhere from a week or two to several months to hear back from them. during that time I will… wait. 🙂

4. Well, not just wait. We’re going to be talking over ideas for my next book, but I’mm not sure how far I’m going to get on it before the baby comes. We have a C-section scheduled for the 18th of December. I wouldn’t be surprised if he comes early though.

So that’s the plan! I also plan to go to the store and buy about 5 bottles of Tums! I can’t imagine anything more nerve-wracking then waiting to hear back from all these big publishers. It seems much worse than waiting for agents. Does anybody have any advice for getting through the next couple of weeks? I sure could use it!

Finding joy in life.

My husband and I are the same in many areas; we have many of the same beliefs, hobbies, etc. But there is one area where we are vastly different. He is a pessimist and I am an optimist.

I actually think this is a good thing. He helps keep me grounded and I help him to find the joy in life. It’s a good balance.

This year has been a difficult year. We’ve had a lot of very good things happen to us, but it’s also been very stressful. And we both know it’s only going to get harder before it gets better; as our second son will be coming at the start of December.

This weekend, we took a drive to look at the fall leaves. My husband was thinking about his new job, which he’s had since september. It pays great, but he works a ten-hour day, with a one hour commute in the morning and again in the evening. On top of that, he sometimes has to work overtime. To add in another difficulty, we live in an area where we usually get over 200 inches of snow in a season.They’re predicting snow already for Friday and saturday. I know he’s worried about managing the job and drive while also having a newborn at home.

He turned to me while we were driving down a quiet country road and said, “Life is just plugging away day after day, isn’t it?”

I thought for a minute and said, “Sometimes. But I saw you laughing at our son this morning when he was running around the house pretending to be  a Tyrannosaurus Rex. You weren’t plugging away then, were you?”

I was just trying to make him feel better, but I thought more about it when I got home. Yes, life is about plugging away. But it’s also about looking at beautiful fall leaves, laughing at the funny things your kids do, enjoying a good tv show, book, or movie, going for a long walk outside, and getting excited about the first snowfall. Making sure you notice and enjoy the small things in life is what makes your life a joyful one. Sometimes, you  might have to force yourself to do it, but it will always make you happier.

As a perpetual optimist, that’s my key to a happy life. Enjoy!

Being a writer means doing nothing…

I know, that sounds odd, doesn’t it? But to some extent, it’s true. Today, if you had watched me, you’ve wouldn’t have seen me do anything writer-ly. My son and I went for an autumn walk and pressed fallen leaves between wax paper. We washed dishes and made batter for homemade donuts. During nap time, I watched the beginning of Jane Eyre, the version made for Masterpiece Theater, on PBS. To the untrained eye, it would have looked like I wasn’t working. But I was.

To some extent, I’m relaxing too. My first book is officially published, and my revisions for my second, unrelated novel, have been sent in to my agent. There isn’t really anything to do until she gets back to me. So what was I doing today?

I was thinking, imagining, stewing. All the possible ideas I’ve had swirling in my head for months have suddenly become more prominent, more demanding. Characters are knocking on my brain, demanding attention. I’ve begun dreaming about them, about some of the story sparks I have.

This is my absolute favorite part of being a writer; the choosing of the next story, the fleshing out of the characters, the imagining. There are endless possibilities in front of me, all bright and sparkling and new. Which will I pick? What will I create? What will the final product be like? At this point, no one knows, not even me…

What about you? What’s your favorite part of writing?

My dream writing schedule vs. my real writing schedule.

Dream Schedule

7:30 a.m.-Wake up and write until 11:30 while someone watches son.

11:30 am-12:15 p.m. Take a nice walk outside with son and dog.

12:15-12:45- Eat lunch with son.

1:00-3:00-Write some more while son naps.

3:00-6:30-Play with son, pick up house, cook supper etc.

6:30-Husband gets home, eat supper, have a nice quite family night.

9:00-Son goes to sleep.

11:00-I go to sleep too.

 

Actual Schedule (this is my actual schedule for today. Son’s bedtime, what happens during naptime, etc. is based on yesterday)

 

8:00-Accidently sleep late. Rush to shower and have a cup of tea before son wakes up.

8:30- Son wakes up.

8:30-10:00-Son clings to me, saying he doesn’t feel good. Insists I watch Thomas the Train with him, then play with stickers on floor. Bangs laptop when I place it on couch.

10-10:30-Son eats breakfast in high chair next to me while I write blog post then write out bills. Only interrupted twice, once to get him more milk, and once when the cat throws up, massively and spectacularly.

10:30-12:30-Alternate between cleaning house and playing with son. Real estate agent coming over later to take pictures and list house on market. Must be spick and span.

12:30-1:00-Read son books and put down for nap. Fusses in crib for half an hour before falling asleep. Continue to clean.

1:00-3:00- Hopefully will get two hours to write while son naps. In realty, being 23 weeks pregnant and taking care of a toddler often catches up with me. I’ll sit down on the couch to write and then wake up an hour and a half later, realizing I accidentally fell asleep and now have an awful cramp in my neck.

3:00-4:30-Take son and dog outside for exercise.

4:30-6:30-Continue to clean house and make supper.

6:30-Real estate agent shows up to take pictures.

7:30- Husband gets home late. Together, we sign documents to list house.

8:00- Finally get to eat.

11:30-Fussing son finally falls asleep

12:30-I finally get to go to sleep too.

 

Does anyone else have this problem? How do you deal with it? I’d love some advice!

How do you make time to write?

My life has been so exhausting lately; I’m usually asleep before my head hits the pillow. I’m pregnant and I have a two-year-and-two-month-old-child. I’ve been applying for mortgages, house hunting, trying to get our current home ready to go on the market, and trying to finish my first round of editing on my novel. On top of that, I have all my other, normal duties, like cooking supper and cleaning. My husband has a demanding, physical job and works long hours, so we don’t get to see much of him. So my question is, when you are crazy-busy (and I know I’m no the only one who is!), how do you fit writing into your life?

I usually write during my son’s nap time, but to be honest, a lot of the first trimester of my pregnancy involved me sleeping during my son’s nap time instead. I’m feeling a little better now, but I still have a problem. I usually end up making a lot of my important calls to the bank and real-estate office during nap time.

Maybe I should have titled this post, “How do you keep a two-year-old from banging on your laptop?” Because really, that’s the problem. I could probably work for a while well he was awake if he wasn’t fascinated by it. Do you guys have any tips for writing with a toddler in the room? I’d love (am desperate?) to hear them!

I’m Back!

Here is an update on what is going on:

Writing: I’m working frantically on my first round of edits, trying to get them done and back to the editor. As you all know I’ve had a hell of a time the last few weeks, but hopefully things are going to even out now.

Pregnancy: I’m entering the fourteenth week and am hoping the danger is behind me now. I appear to have a sub-chorionic hemorrhage, but it seems to be resolving itself. I would love if you all would cross your fingers, send kind thoughts, pray, etc. I just want the baby to be okay.

House-hunting: Our offer has been accepted and is moving forward. It should have less paperwork to deal with now, and hopefully less stress. Our mortgage is going forward as well, although there is more paperwork to be dealt with there.

House-selling: Other than taking care of my son, this is going to be the biggest time-consumer in my life at the moment. My husband and I are trying to make the house as pretty as we can, as the real estate agent is coming out next weekend to take pictures of the house and officially list it for sale. My poor husband spent Father’s Day staining the front deck, but I made it up to him by making snow-crab for supper.

Child-rearing: My son is healthy, happy, and well. I can’t ask for more than that, even if last week he somehow became convinced that the blue people from Avatar are coming to get him, and now repeatedly wakes up at night. *Note to self- Don’t flip through the channels at 8 o’clock at night  while son is in the room. You never know what might bother a little kid.

P.S. My posting schedule will be Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday. Hopefully things will be calmer now and there won’t be any lapses.